WTF is up with that Find A Grave website??
That thing needs to be taken down if there’s no mods.
PSA: if you have a headstone for your family, go make a page for the grave before someone else does. Apparently anyone can write whatever they want and it’s published without a care in the world.
I Googled my mom’s obituary yesterday and I found there was an entry for her on Find A Grave. Interesting.
So I go look at it and I realize that my schizophrenic cousin has made entries for everyone in my family. That wouldn’t be a huge problem except he posted my grandma‘s Social Security number on her page, on my mom‘s page he listed every address she has ever lived at in her entire life, birth to death.
This is extremely upsetting to me because I’m still alive, and because I was her daughter I also lived at a lot of those addresses, so this man and this website is making it extremely easy for someone to steal my identity.
Apparently you can also upload whatever pictures you want and it just posts them to the website. Maybe there are filters to make sure it’s nothing obscene but I just made a page for my own grave so my cousin doesn’t steal it and put whatever he wants there, and it let me upload photos.
Then I came across my friend’s page and the photo added isn’t his stone. Not even close.
Y’all never in a million years would I have thought to go claim my “find a grave” page so no one else can make one and put my Social Security number and every address I’ve ever had on it.
I’ve written to them to try to reclaim my family’s memorial pages, I’ve suggested edits removing all the personal information, I don’t know how to get in touch with my schizophrenic cousin so I sent him a message through that website telling him it’s extremely inappropriate. If he wants to keep control of my grandma’s page because that’s his grandma as well that’s fine as long as he takes her Social Security number off of it.
But this man took control of my deceased father‘s page, he’s my mother‘s brother‘s son, he is no relation to my father by any stretch of imagination. He had no right. But this website gives anyone the right to make a page for any dead person and right whatever they want to write on there.
Is doxxing still illegal if the person is dead? It should be. I closed my brother’s estate last year but I’m pretty sure they keep it around to make sure that there are no claims left unpaid. At least he didn’t put my brother’s Social Security number up there. Yet.
#doxxing
That thing needs to be taken down if there’s no mods.
PSA: if you have a headstone for your family, go make a page for the grave before someone else does. Apparently anyone can write whatever they want and it’s published without a care in the world.
I Googled my mom’s obituary yesterday and I found there was an entry for her on Find A Grave. Interesting.
So I go look at it and I realize that my schizophrenic cousin has made entries for everyone in my family. That wouldn’t be a huge problem except he posted my grandma‘s Social Security number on her page, on my mom‘s page he listed every address she has ever lived at in her entire life, birth to death.
This is extremely upsetting to me because I’m still alive, and because I was her daughter I also lived at a lot of those addresses, so this man and this website is making it extremely easy for someone to steal my identity.
Apparently you can also upload whatever pictures you want and it just posts them to the website. Maybe there are filters to make sure it’s nothing obscene but I just made a page for my own grave so my cousin doesn’t steal it and put whatever he wants there, and it let me upload photos.
Then I came across my friend’s page and the photo added isn’t his stone. Not even close.
Y’all never in a million years would I have thought to go claim my “find a grave” page so no one else can make one and put my Social Security number and every address I’ve ever had on it.
I’ve written to them to try to reclaim my family’s memorial pages, I’ve suggested edits removing all the personal information, I don’t know how to get in touch with my schizophrenic cousin so I sent him a message through that website telling him it’s extremely inappropriate. If he wants to keep control of my grandma’s page because that’s his grandma as well that’s fine as long as he takes her Social Security number off of it.
But this man took control of my deceased father‘s page, he’s my mother‘s brother‘s son, he is no relation to my father by any stretch of imagination. He had no right. But this website gives anyone the right to make a page for any dead person and right whatever they want to write on there.
Is doxxing still illegal if the person is dead? It should be. I closed my brother’s estate last year but I’m pretty sure they keep it around to make sure that there are no claims left unpaid. At least he didn’t put my brother’s Social Security number up there. Yet.
#doxxing
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Maggie Maybe •
“Anne's residential history is important for me to document. I did take your other suggestions. By the way, if this is Maggie, I say Hello! I'd love to know how to reach you, where you are living and how to reach your brother. Thanks, Robert”
I LOST IT. Bruh NO. I discovered that this website is actually part of #ancestry, and according to their terms of use publishing people‘s addresses is a violation.
It’s impossible to contact this company but I did find six different email addresses for them so I emailed all of them and I copied the Attorney General in New Hampshire and the Attorney General in Utah where the website is based. I don’t know the rules about websites but I’m pretty sure they’re supposed to be some kind of mod or ability to stop just anything from appearing online, there’s no report button anywhere except to report a duplicate grave (ooh maybe I should make one then report his as a duplicate?) but WHY WOULD I GIVE HIM MY INFO AFTER THIS.
Oh, and EVEN WORSE. The entry he made for my grandma has all of her addresses on it, but the entry he made from my brother and my father and his father do not. He’s literally only victimizing women. There is no legitimate reason it’s important for him to publish all my mother’s addresses. If for some bizarre reason he needs this information for himself he can keep it in a drawer at home.
Anyway I don’t know how to reply to him so I suggested another edit thru the site and I pasted the body of the email I sent to the AGs in it. AND the paragraph from terms and conditions that says he can’t do this.
PLEASE if you have your burial plot, maybe go make a blank entry on this site so no one else can make one and write whatever they want to about you because apparently that’s a thing and there’s no way to get it taken down swiftly. I never imagined anyone with seize control of entering my family on find a grave website and then refuse to respect my wishes regarding private information. He even made an entry from my father‘s parents, for a grandmother who was dead before my father even met my mom. The absolute #audacity.
#privacyIsDead #doxxingForProfit #ancestryDotCom #FindAGrave
Tek say resist •
Second: I bet Find A Grave is big enough to be subject to the CCPA. Write their legal@findagrave.com email (if it exists) and demand they take it down under the CCPA.
Maggie Maybe •
Anyway, right before I saw this I was on Wikipedia trying to find information on how to find legal and I realized why this company sucks ass so much.
It’s owned by Blackstone lol of course
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ancestry.com
Tek say resist •
I hope that helps! Legal departments tend to be more helpful about this stuff than support departments, who often don't know jack.
Maggie Maybe •
datum (n=1) •
it's not wrong to scream when someone's running your limb over, even if their business is predicated on flattening limbs
I hope the AG investigates and/or a class action results!
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