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Today I heard the most disconnected justification for not masking

Someone told me their dad refused to mask because he wanted to “live his life fully”. He caught covid & died

This person genuinely seemed to believe that her Dad lived more fully than people who mask…because he died living the way HE wanted

Given they’re likely experiencing grief - I pushed back as gently as possible. I explained that you can do almost all activities while wearing a respirator - but you can’t live life if you’re dead.

There was zero recognition of the point I was trying to make. They stood their ground.

I don’t know how we reach people like that. They’re so entrenched in their beliefs that even losing a close family member wont shake their denial.

Because it’s an airborne virus - his choice likely harmed others.

Thats the reason I keep advocating. Your “freedom” to risk your health stops when it puts the lives of others at risk.

Perhaps you’re genuinely ok losing your life just to avoid wearing a mask - but don’t presume to make that decision for other people.

Masking is kindness. It saves lives.

#covidisairborne #CovidIsNotOver #sarscov2 #longcovid #wearamask #maskswork
this is another case of cognitive dissonance provoking reactions that are counterintuitive to people like you and me, who are comfortable with facing hard truths.

with cognitive dissonance as a factor, this person's father's death is not 'evidence against' their beliefs (about masking and 'living their life’). it is *more fuel* to necessitate maintaining their nonsensical reconciliation of irreconcilable facts.

if you're right about masking, then their father died *for nothing*. he died a fool. he effectively killed himself with his own stupidity. that is unconscionable.

it *has* to mean something. he *has to be right*. he *needs* to have died in the manner of his own choosing.

what else does it mean for the person themselves, if they have to face the reality that maybe they should have tried to persuade their father to protect himself, and that it might have saved his life?

nah. this 'evidence' makes such a person *harder* to reach, not easier.
But somehow people do face reality when:
* The father used illegal drugs that killed him
* The father smoked all their lives and then died of lung cancer
* The father drove way over the speed limit and under the influence of alcohol and then crashed and died
Accepting that you go around maskless and then die of Covid related illness must therefore also be about them: They are engaging in the same behavior (not all that stupid harmful stuff above), and they do not want to stop their own behavior (because there is a lot of mask shaming and social exclusion for mask wearing).

So what they are really saying that they themselves are living life to the fullest.
first of all, I'm not convinced that, in the examples you provided, people really are always so clear-eyed about their parents' flaws. do you have real-world examples, or is it possible that variations of the same rhetoric still turns up? “he lived a good life", “he died doing what he loved", and so on?

but yes, the person's own cavalier attitudes toward infection likely add to it, no doubt.
I must say that I also gave up on the unhealthy eating part. Me giving tips on healthier eating was just making them upset (later on they also got upset from seeing me trying to eat healthier foods, so then it was time to avoid eating together - which we now have to do anyway, because of Covid). And yes, if they develop conditions because of the unhealthy food, I will accept that it was how they wanted to live.
Someone else eating unhealty food is not cramming it down your own throat in the process. Someone insisting on getting close unmasked is doing the equivalent of exactly that