Parents of Neurodivergent children, please help!

My ND son is starting to notice that other people have friendships and social activities that he is not a part of. He doesn't have those kinds of friendships. It is breaking his little heart, and I am in Dad Panic mode. He is excluded, and both myself and my partner (both also ND) have no experience or useful input to help.

We feel so powerless. Could someone with experience please offer some advice?

Please boost.

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What do you like & hate related to senses?

Mine:
❌ grease on my fingers
❌ ticking clocks; dripping water
✅ sweets
❌ bitter; sour
✅ lots of pillows

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Are there any you would add to this list?

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My brain seems to search for fellow autistic people in my surroundings. I have a hunch that several people I know are on the spectrum. What I'm really not sure about is whether is this just a case of me having the proverbial hammer and seeing nails everywhere. Even more crucially, is it ok for me to say to other people whether they have considered if they're autistic?

In the trans circles it's a rule that one doesn't say to other people that maybe they are trans if they haven't self-identified first. This is because such confrontation may push these people further in the closet even for themselves. Makes sense. Is it the same for autism?

I especially think this in relation to our students. I'm our division's designated person who the students come to see with their study issues. I also routinely see half of each year's students briefly about their studies. In other words, I get to hear about things hindering their studies. Overall, by their own admission, it seems that autism is over-presented in this group. Others haven't mentioned them being ND but certain things they tell me ring a bell. I then circle around it but openly tell about my autism and executive function issues.

I ask you, other autistic people, would've you benefited from/liked if someone had asked whether you've considered if you're autistic, especially when you didn't know it yourself yet? What if it would've been your study advisor? Or a friend who also disclosed their autism?

Disclaimer: I won't act on basis of your answers, I just want to hear what your feelings about this are.

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hey, hi!

i'm looking for resources that might help in a neurotypical + neurodivergent relationship. something the NT (and ND) can educate themselves with and something the ND can use to better communicate their needs and how their brain works to their loved ones.

ADHD is a given, autism is not/(but possible, and there's a lot of overlap). so ideally these resources would be somewhat generalized so it doesn't seem like "okay so you're saying you're autistic?"

thank you!

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As I come to understand my #autism better (I was only diagnosed 7 years ago, aged 63), I realise I have lived a hopelessly innocent and naive life.

I have always tried to live my actual real life trying to be decent (etc). I thought everyone did the same. What a fool I have been. 😢

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Now here's something fun... just on the theme of hyper focus and lack of focus 😊
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DECmaChNGCR/?igsh=cmcyMWJ1OGM4Ynpp

I thought it was a trick (if I'm honest, I'm still not sure). As soon as I look at the green, everything else disappears and stays that way.

I'd be very curious to see what other people experience!

And whether ADHD and/or autism makes a difference.

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"Do you find #pain non existent or overwhelming?
Do you know when you are tired, hungry, thirsty?
Do you know when your heart is racing ?
This is our well known #interoception sense infographic. #hypermobility #neurodivergence

[Stolen from @SEDSConnective on the birdsite.]

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I am considered buying a weighted blanket, as I have heard many find them extremely beneficial. However, I have a few questions and wish to consult the autistic hive mind. So please only reply if autistic, with actual experience of this.

I have COPD and getting too hot in the night, isn't good for my chest. So how hot do these things get?

I am also a very restless sleeper and move a lot in the night. Not being able to do this, tends to not do me any favours. So, how restrictive is that weight upon you.

Lastly, how thin are they? Because I am a snuggler and like a decent amount of material to do that.

Any other remarks and comments, would be welcome, as would boosting for reach.

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"Advertising falls flat with autistic people."

Does anyone have ideas as to why?

🤔

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Subject: Disadvantages of an autism diagnosis,

#AskingAutistics, esp if you've experience of seeking, getting, or considering getting, a diagnosis, for self and/or child.

Are there disadvantages of having a diagnosis, in your view?

Anything at all!

Reposts appreciated too ☺️