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I have said this before, but once more with feeling: where are the parenting guides for ADHD/autistic parents?

Like, no one thinks they exist?
Or is it just a "deal with it" situation?
Or something else?...

#ADHD #autism #neurodivergent #parenting
Will Berard 🫳🎤 🫶
As far as ADHD is concerned, ADDitide mag has put ot a number of webinars on the topic: https://www.additudemag.com/tag/podcasts/?srsltid=AfmBOoomBbm4wIILvorRwb81HSvyttcP9Jow_cW7AaTGG3znvxInuAdO

ADDitude Podcast Library: ADHD Webinars on Demand

Explore previous episodes of the ADDitude ADHD Experts podcast and listen to learn practical strategies and advice for managing the symptoms of ADHD.
ADDitude
Hugs4friends ♾🇺🇦 🇵🇸😷
We don't exist? According to Wakefield, vaccines caused autism, and dieticians swear that food additives cause ADD and ADHD.
However, the first vaccines occurred very early last century, and Food Additives were around in the mid 70s, if not sooner. My 53y.o. autistic son is a grandfather, already. My mum was almost certainly autistic.
We muddle along, and learn how not to mask from our autistic kids. If Adderall and Ritalin are denied to ADD & ADHD adults & kids, your Autistic neurokin might be able to help you cope.
Z̈oé :antifa:
this is a common misconception. Vaccines don’t cause autism! Autism causes vaccines.
Hugs4friends ♾🇺🇦 🇵🇸😷
I know that. The majority of 'clinical' psychiatrists, and neurologists, are still looking for cures.
Author-ized L.J.
ADHD mom of an autistic kid here. We've been basically making it up as we go along and letting the kid take the lead on a lot of things. Regular "acceptable" bedtimes are pointless misery for all involved, playing games side by side past midnight is fine unless there's a real reason (like school or travel) to wake up early, 10 am rising times are fine for weekends and vacation times, 3-hour rambling walks where he reads the number plates of the parked cars are wonderful. We set firm boundaries on a very few important things, support him on developing and using coping skills, watch out for and help him through sensory overwhelm and other support needs, and to hell with neurotypical expectations and masking.
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Dr. Zalka Csenge Virág
For sure! For me it's more so about things like "kid will constantly overstimulate you, break your habits, and disrupt your coping mechanisms" 😄
Author-ized L.J.
Oh yeah 😭 it's definitely a case of having to learn how to live together. I feel guilty about how irritated I get at repeated calls of "Mommy!" *face twitches* Kids are definitely A Lot and I find occasional time-outs away from him and switching up with his dad very helpful.
Pandemimimimi
I feel you. My best support are other neuro spicy parents. We have a group within a messenger and discuss possible solutions to challenges we face e.g. sounds during Family Dinner, issues with Child care providers, …
Dave
I've not yet found any and I sure have looked. I'm just working it out from trial and error.
spiegelmama
Even if they exist, do they accommodate the fact that many neurodivergent kids have neurodivergent parents? How do I deal with conflicting stims and aversions? This situation stinks.

Are you thinking of a book project? Do you want a coauthor? 😁
Ben Wooller
There's a bit of info here. I know there is quite a bit of support from our government in AUS but there's online stuff too which might help?
https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/development/adhd

School age: ADHD

Get reliable information, tips and ideas on managing ADHD in school-age children.
Raising Children Network
Chroniques autistes 🇫🇷 🇨🇦
I can remember only one book. The author is autistic @KatyElphinstone

How to Raise Happy Neurofabulous Children
https://us.jkp.com/products/how-to-raise-happy-neurofabulous-children

Maybe if you look at #AutisticParenting you could find some other resources? There are also probably other # .

#ActuallyAutistic (the actually means the author is autistic, not a family member or a health professional).

How to Raise Happy Neurofabulous Children

Parenting can be chaos, a flurry of trial and error, problem-solving, and tears (of difficulty but also of joy!).
Jessica Kingsley Publishers - USA
#actuallyautistic #autisticparenting @Katy Elphinstone
Fabien
Sadly even this by @KatyElphinstone doesn't really cover the extra challenge for parents that are autistic too.
Every book I found is focused on the autistic kids’ needs, not on the challenges of autistic parents raising autistic kids (aka autism squared).
@Katy Elphinstone
Chroniques autistes 🇫🇷 🇨🇦
I’m autistic, but I can’t have kids, so I don’t know about the book. The community might have other ideas?

We have another autistic author here with @niamhgarvey (she wrote Looking After Your Autistic Self: A Personalised Self-Care Approach to Managing Your Sensory and Emotional Well-Being and a book for kids).

The thread might be an opportunity for autistic authors to find another theme for their next book “the challenges of autistic parents raising autistic kids“! 😁

@TarkabarkaHolgy @KatyElphinstone

#ActuallyAutistic
#actuallyautistic @Dr. Zalka Csenge Virág @Niamh Garvey @Katy Elphinstone
Dr. Zalka Csenge Virág
Many average parenting books give you sound advice like "make sure you take time for yourself" like geee haha thanks now that you mention it 😆😅
I'd love a book dealing with "yes, your toddler will absolutely overstimulate you and will give zero craps when you beg for mercy" 😆
Chroniques autistes 🇫🇷 🇨🇦
Oh I know, it's like "what don't you use a planner to get organized" when you have ADHD, sure... And so many other examples... 😂

@fabienmarry @niamhgarvey @KatyElphinstone
@Niamh Garvey @Katy Elphinstone @Fabien
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Dr. Zalka Csenge Virág
my favorite ever was some rando lady who told me "oh, keeping the house clean is easy! Just designate a space for everything, and always put everything back to its place."

Aha.
Niamh Garvey
oh that would be bliss. I used be able to do that when it was just me. Throw some kids into the mix and it fell apart. Throw some adhd kids and I know I will never get back to that place 😂
Dr. Zalka Csenge Virág
from what we can tell my kid is fully neurotypical 😆 because irony
Bernie Sadly Does It
That sounds hard. I'm sorry to hear that. Fortunately you probably already have had a lot of experience dealing with NTs.
Bernie Sadly Does It
I would reply, "I already always put my shoes in the same place and my coat in the closet. My brain really isn't capable of following that advice much farther."
Katy Elphinstone
This one just came out recently, specifically for parents who are autistic themselves.

https://uk.jkp.com/products/parenting-when-youre-autistic?_pos=1&_psq=parenting+when+you%27re+autistic&_ss=e&_v=1.0

I haven't read it, so I don't know if it's what would be needed! I would be curious to know, though.

Parenting When You're Autistic

Parenting is hard. It's one of those universal constants, like water being wet or grass being green. And being neurodivergent can add an extra layer of tricky to the whole thing.
Jessica Kingsley Publishers - UK
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Dr. Zalka Csenge Virág hat dies geteilt

Dr. Zalka Csenge Virág
this looks great, thank you!
thejikz
I am an audhd parent to multiple suspected adhd and possibly a couple audhd spawn. its a hoot. no guide. endless chainsaws runnin on chaos sauce. also interested. order and peace are hot commodities, rarely found, and when found, rarer to maintain. cheers!!
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