Wrote another article. This one is based off these 5 Autistic Love Languages graphics I made 2 years ago. I wanted to make an article inclusive of neurodivergent people.

https://shop.autisticinnovator.com/blogs/the-autistic-innovator/5-autistic-neurodivergent-love-languages

#ActuallyAutistic
#ADHD
#neurodivergent

Nothing shakes your feeling of stability like reviewing your internet browsing history of a single day. (Me, recently diagnosed as an AuDHDer).

Nawwwwwwwww, EVERYONE flitters through 30 very different topics in a single calendar day. Right? Right??

@actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic #ActuallyADHD #ActuallyAutistic

the point of markets is justification for hurting people for being disabled.

Disabled people often require more resources, and cannot produce as much for the market. It is nothing more than systematic exclusion.

#anarchim #ActuallyAutistic #Disabled

I've often wondered why they don't at least screen for ADHD when someone is referred for an autism assessment. It's so common to have both and it would streamline the referral process. Now there's a petition asking for exactly this: https://chng.it/5tt7GtCtMQ #ActuallyAutistic

I am a total over thinker, especially when emailing/interacting with new people etc. I have been practicing at work to just SEND THE THING. I am not rushing, I do want to send a polite and concise message, but there is no point in agonizing too much over wording. I am happy that now I sometimes get this like "just let it go" impulse so I can move on a little quicker and when I've sent it I tell myself "It's fine! It's fine!" 😅
#ActuallyAutistic

#ActuallyAutistic (actually only means the author is autistic) #ADHD #AuDHD #autism

Read recently in How to ADHD by Jessica McCabe: “she put her medication in her shoes“ (or something like this), because that way she doesn’t forget her medication.

My more recent trick is to keep in front on the lamp on my bedside table the moisturizer, because I need to hydrate the arm where I have a lymphodema when I go to bed. I don’t forget because I have to move it to turn on the light. 😂

What kind of personal trick you use to not forget (at least try not to) to do/take something? Share your tips!

(edit to change the language of the post, I always forget. 🫠)

Are there any you would add to this list?

#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #autism #AuDHD #ADHD #neurodiversity #neurodivergent @audhd @adhd @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy.a.gup.pe @neurodiversity

So, I know there's a lot of sexism and other problematic stuff in #BigBangTheory and #YoungSheldon, but I do enjoy watching those shows -- since I can really identify with #SheldonCooper. However, I'm also digging #HighPotential for similar reasons. Does anyone else in the @actuallyautistic enjoy these shows? Or am I in the minority?
#ActuallyAutistic

#actuallyautistic #ADHD #neurodivergent #neurodiversity

I’m autistic, but I can’t have kids, so I don’t know about the book. The community might have other ideas?

We have another autistic author here with @niamhgarvey (she wrote Looking After Your Autistic Self: A Personalised Self-Care Approach to Managing Your Sensory and Emotional Well-Being and a book for kids).

The thread might be an opportunity for autistic authors to find another theme for their next book “the challenges of autistic parents raising autistic kids“! 😁

@TarkabarkaHolgy @KatyElphinstone

#ActuallyAutistic

In my experience, when I have told an NT person that I am #autistic, they tend to take it to mean one of two things:

1. They think if I am self-aware enough to know I'm autistic so that I could tell them about it, that implies I know the difference between autistic and normal behavior, so I can just do the normal thing, because that's all it takes, knowing what the normal thing is. They think I'm informing them that I've got it handled, so they can just carry on as usual without any adjustments. Maybe they think I'm bragging or asking them to be impressed? Who knows.

2. They think I am informing them of an insurmountable barrier to communication, and conclude it will be too hard to have a relationship (of whatever kind), so there's no point in trying.

The frustrating thing is that they don't realize there is a third option: They could meet us halfway. They could learn to do their part in bridging the #DoubleEmpathyProblem communication gap. They could cut us a little slack when we unintentionally mess up and break one of their mysterious social rules that are impossible for us to learn, because part of the rules is that they always lie about what the rules really are. They could try to understand that we see the world differently than they do, that the way we see things is just as valid as theirs, and we shouldn't have to do all the work to bridge the communication gap without any help from them.

And beyond frustrating, they appear to think the way to support me is to "help" me adapt to NT social norms. They tell me what I'm doing is wrong, even without me asking. They "guide" me toward NT standard behavior, which usually feels like bullying because then they punish me when I don't conform. It feels like everyone thinks it's their job to be an ABA therapist and gently torture me into normality.

There are, thankfully, some people who I'm close enough to that I can lead them to the third option. But that's always hit-or-miss, and is never easy. I'm really grateful for the handful of people who really do accept me, and even if they don't understand me all the time, they cut me some slack for not being able to perform NT.

#ActuallyAutistic

I wonder how many #ActuallyAutistic ladies have gone undiagnosed in their lives because they were told good girls don’t make a fuss, so we got really REALLY good at masking

Now available on YouTube, an #OnlineAutscape2025 “More Autistic Joy” performance:

On the 7th of February at 20:30 GMT/UTC, autistic stand-up poet and BBC Radio 4 regular Kate Fox performed some of her pieces from last year’s hit Autscape show, the Dr Who-themed “Bigger on the Inside”, plus other poems which invoke autistic joy!

Content warning: Profanity, explicit references to sex.
Watch it at: https://youtu.be/c3_aYD89TUI

#Autscape #AutisticJoy #ActuallyAutistic #autistic #autism #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #poetry #standup

So, in my search to find something to help my business I figured I'd give the whole blogging thing a try again. Google ranks new stuff in my store in the top 10 really fast usually, so articles give me more reach on Google, which is how I make most of my money. Not sure if short videos is a skill I can learn or not, but writing an article just flows so naturally.

This article was outlined and somewhat written back in 2022, so I finished it and posted it to the store.

https://shop.autisticinnovator.com/blogs/the-autistic-innovator/what-is-stimming-self-acceptance-embracing-our-stims

#ActuallyAutistic
#AuDHD
#neurodivergent

Whew! cold-induced brain short-circuits are *NOT* fun! Finally getting back to normal after trying to switch out trash bins--and that was around 2 hours ago! @actuallyautistic

***Hashtags Here:***
#ActuallyAutistic #SensoryProcessing #SPD #Neurodivergent #Neurodivergence

as an #ActuallyAutistic person who might be #AuDHD I totally relate.... especially regarding RFK.

You don't owe anyone an explanation for who you are. Would it help them, maybe, but you don't owe that to them.

#ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD

Does anyone else find it a bit confusing the way "support" is used around things like emotional support?
I've been puzzled by it's use in various books and my partner is using it in ways I don't fully understand. It seems to encompass a lot that is assumed.
Anybody know of any good complete explanations?

#actuallyautistic @actuallyautistic

Scambots are currently addressing people directly and asking for money for diabetes related products.
The original 2 accounts were either moderated or deleted by the owner, the one on the right is currently active again so I wouldn't be surprised, if the one of the left was also already recycled.

Stay safe and always check for obvious signs of fraud, like the date an account was created.

@actuallyautistic

#ActuallyAutistic #Diabetes #Scam

Yes. For me it's the depth of the investment and also the longevity. A while back, I had a group of friends that was into board games (Settlers of Catan, Ticket to Ride, etc). They'd play a game once or twice and then move on. I'd identify a favorite and want to play it over and over, to truly learn it. Some of those games, like Go, I was able to pursue without them, and still play many years later. I'm sure those people have forgotten all about them.

#ActuallyAutistic

I think this is an #autism, #actuallyautistic or #actuallyadhd question but does anyone feel alienated because no one is as invested in their interests as you are? For an example, I’m a huge #swiftie and know lots about Taylor Swift and her music. It makes me excited.

Does anyone feel as though the level and intensity that they invest in their interests alienates them.

I’m feeling very alienated have no friends. Hope I get some feedback soon.

#disability
#disabled
#specialinterests

I had an #autistic moment last week that resulted in ripped trousers, damaged jacket and a cut finger. I am hideously embarrassed by this, an attempt to bypass a downed fence across a path I regularly use. I’m saying so here in an attempt to remove some power from it. The jacket is being repaired, the trousers demoted to ‘decorating wear’ (as if I’ll ever decorate) and the finger, slightly infected, but now healing. ❤️‍🩹 Just tryna love myself and move on.

How are you doing? 🙂

@actuallyautistic #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD @actuallyadhd #AuDHD @actuallyaudhd

Even before I understood I'm autistic, let alone AuDHD, I started making accommodations to facilitate my work. This was around the end of the first Covid year. My therapist was instrumental in the initation of this. Since then, I've refined my system before each term.

For instance, I use post-its, lots of them. One the one hand, they help my shoddy memory. On the other hand, they help me do things in a piecemeal fashion instead of tackling huge, daunting tasks. A big plus is the satisfaction I get from crumpling each post-it once I've finished the task involved.

I also reserve time slots in my calendar not only for meetings and teaching but important tasks. If the scheduling seems too tight or for some reason something isn't that urgent and I don't feel like doing the task then, I've reserved the right to move those slots. Not feeling like doing something is a clear message from my brain that I have to take it easier.

This term, the new thing I'm trying is working from home on Wednesdays. Last fall I understood that going to office five days a week exhausts me, mostly due to commuting. Now I've divided the office time to two 2-day periods per week with one day in between when I don't have to leave home (apart from something minor such as walking the dog or going to local grocery store). So far, it seems like a good practice.

During the lockdowns I noticed that working from home doesn't work well for me. One day is alright but when the stint is longer, there are too many distractions and my productivity plummets. With this new system, I seem to get most out of working from home meanwhile I get a mini break from commuting.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @actuallyautistic

Ten factors that can reduce your empathy towards others.

1. If you're in a hurry.

2. If you're feeling overwhelmed or worried about something.

3. If you've experienced high levels of intolerance in your childhood.

⬇️

#Empathy #Compassion #Intuition #Kindness
#ActuallyAutistic

Trying jo wrap my head around the fact that even though I was with my #ActuallyAutistic neurokin this weekend, it still left my social spoons low by the time I was done with the conference and my UU service. I enjoyed the hell out of the weekend, but I'm still feeling like I need to recharge. @actuallyautistic

Progress!!! I got asked whether I'd like to be a test user for a new platform at work, since they'd like some representation of neurodivergent folk too. While my initial instinct is to just jump on it & say yes, because it is important & I'm happy they thought of us, I said I'm interested, I'm just wondering how much time commitment they'd wish for & if they could elaborate a bit on the process.
I am so proud of asking for more info to make a decision that is right for me!
#ActuallyAutistic

Inhaltswarnung: The spectrum, "but you're doing fine" (but also diabetes, pretty much any disability) Zum Öffnen/Schließen klicken

Since this is my main social media channel, i'm sharing the invitation to my qualitative study about friendships between autistic adults that i'm conducting for my master's thesis. I'm looking for Polish speaking people. Please share if you can!

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Dzień dobry, nazywam się Emil Gałaman i jestem studentem Psychologii na Uniwersytecie Łódzkim.

Jeśli jest Panx dorosłą osobą autystyczną i ma Panx znajomych lub przyjaciół w spektrum autyzmu, serdecznie zapraszam do udziału w badaniu, które przeprowadzam w ramach mojej pracy magisterskiej. Badanie ma na celu poszerzenie wiedzy o przyjaźniach między dorosłymi autystami i będzie polegało na rozmowie, podczas której zadam różne pytania dotyczące Państwa przyjaźni z innymi osobami autystycznymi. Pomysł na to badanie wziął się z mojego własnego doświadczenia, ponieważ sam jestem autystyczny i znam wielu innych autystów. O doświadczeniach tej grupy mówi się od niedawna, a badań na ten konkretny temat właściwie nie ma, więc biorąc udział w moim badaniu mogą Państwo przyczynić się do lepszego poznania doświadczeń autystów z ich własnej perspektywy.

Zachęcam do zapisywania się na rozmowę w trybie stacjonarnym w Instytucie Psychologii Uniwersytetu Łódzkiego przy al. Rodziny Scheiblerów 2 lub w innej uzgodnionej lokalizacji na terenie Łodzi. Możliwe jest także przeprowadzenie rozmowy online przez platformy Skype, Discord lub Signal, zależnie od możliwości logistycznych i osobistego komfortu. W sprawie badania proszę pisać na adres mailowy emil.galaman@protonmail.com, dodać mnie na Discordzie (nazwa użytkownika neurohound), Skype (identyfikator live:.cid.b666e59e0114e1ed) lub Signalu (nazwa użytkownika emil_g.37). Wszystkie inne szczegóły są do uzgodnienia.

#ActuallyAutistic #autism #autistic #study #autyzm #pleaseboost

I was just imagining in a near dream state 'bed tents', a fabric cover held up by poles curved over the bed so you are more private and less perceived in bed.

#Autism #autistic #neurodiverse @actuallyautistic #AutisticBurnout #ActuallyAutistic

As an Autistic person, I want to say: Autism does not cause antisemitism. Autism doesn't make you an asshole. Autism doesn't make you a Nazi. Autism doesn't make you superior, or inferior, to anyone else. Most (but not all, we're a diverse group) Autistic people I know have a strong sense of justice and believe strongly in the equality of all, rejecting the social heirarchy. Please don't listen to people when they blame the 'tism. #Autism #ActuallyAutistic https://flipboard.com/@cbcnews/top-stories-01r3k2ttz/-/a-tMB93xvEQGOOg22uLbpBQA%3Aa%3A107108217-%2F0

I should add that it's very easy for #autistic folk to be seen as assholes no matter what we do. Social and communication differences make that a daily thing for many of us. Thanks, Double Empathy Problem!

But it never works to say something like "Sorry for the miscommunication. I'm autistic and these things happen. Let's try that again." That almost always results in ignorant allistics saying "You can't use autism as an excuse for being an asshole! You're probably lying about the autism too!" They do that because they think their way of communicating is the only correct one, and if we use our natural autistic communication style they see it as wrong and disrespectful, and so we must be assholes for talking to them that way.

Nothing simple or easy about this stuff. I wish people weren't so damn ignorant about autism.

#ActuallyAutistic

Is anyone keeping a list of all the rich assholes who are suddenly claiming to be #autistic? I default to believing people when they say they are autistic, even without a medical diagnosis, but some of this feels like it could be someone pretending to be autistic as a cover for a history of bad behavior. And I really don't like the implication that being autistic causes people to act so much like monsters that you can't tell the difference.

I usually have great sympathy for late-dx folk and respect self-dx, but sometimes I wonder if these people who lie all the damn time might possibly be lying about being autistic, too. Hah, I remember when the problem was rich assholes claiming to be Highly Sensitive People or have a Non-Verbal Learning Disorder to avoid the stigma of an autism label. I'm so confused now.
#ActuallyAutistic

So, as a very white-looking AFAB person (yes, ugh, but that's not who I am) of a certain age, I know I have privilege just because of that. But as someone who is #ActuallyAutistic and very mouthy (#OPD?), that doesn't mean I can get away with shit. My whole life, I've come close to being arrested, but never have been. The fact that I have #Claustrophobia and #PTSD (from being locked in a closet by a Nun) means that I probably would not do well incarcerated. Or at least I'd have to mask for what would seem like an eternity. I honestly don't know how #GretaThunberg could tolerate incarceration, but the fact that she has, and is still very VOCAL, means she is a total #BadAss who is my HERO!

As a translator, what I mostly think about is failure. I have paralysing fear of being perceived as flawed. Maybe it comes from always having felt less than and different (I'm #ActuallyAutistic).

Maybe the question I should be asking myself is: How can I keep working as a translator?

#ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #MentalHealth #xl8 #Neurodiversity #AutismResearch

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I am looking for a new server to join that accepts a multiply disabled trans woman who is #actuallyautistic, loves #reading, #writing, #videogames, #disabilityjustice, #cats / #CatsOfMastodon and #activism

Can you boost for ideas or possible invites? 💕 (two pink hearts emoji)

#AskingAutistics got any cooking hacks you want to share?

#ActuallyAutistic #autism #Autistic #AuDHD #ADHD #neurodiversity #neurodivergent

@actuallyautistic

One of the things that I love about the autistic community here and which I found very surprising when I first joined, is that so many of us here are older and very much late in realising or being diagnosed as autistic. It makes for a very diverse range of experiences and in many cases opinions. However, it does mean that we tend to share two things in common.

One. We've spent most of our lives knowing only that we didn't belong. More often than not, without knowing why, or even how sometimes. Because, we certainly tried to. My god, did we try to. Often in ways that we shouldn't have and with people that we certainly shouldn't have. Which often led to no small amount of failures and disasters, rejection and betrayal, pain and suffering, trauma and in many cases, PTSD.

Two. That we learnt early to hide, in one way or another. Either literally, in the isolated nooks and crannies that we soon learnt the uncanny art of finding everywhere we had to be. Or, behind the masks we grew to try and fit in, or, at the very least, not to stand out. Because standing out, being actually seen, was always dangerous. It was, perhaps, the earliest lesson that many of us would have learnt. That in the world outside, no matter who you were with, or where you were, you were only a mis-step away from being abused, or criticised. That we were frightfully, truly alone and being you, was to be attacked. So, is it any wonder that we tend to have more than our fair share of anxiety and stress issues, depression and barely, if not even close to being, healed scars.

Now, I'm not saying that we are alone in this, or that it doesn't equally apply to many groups, or other autistics who have been diagnosed earlier. Unfortunately, for so many, far from it. I'm just saying that we just tend to have a rather long and unique history with it. Does it always show up in what we post? No, in fact many of us try very hard to not dwell upon it. We have finally found a place where we belong and a community that we can be ourselves in and why dwell on the dark. It's not as if it is really going anywhere.

But, it does make us very vulnerable to what is going on at the moment. Either because we are directly involved, or because of all the news coming out of America and how we can see people are being affected, especially our friends. It's hard not to feel, not to be overwhelmed by it, especially when you consider how sensitive and emphatic we can be and the nature of our histories. There is just so much.

Unfortunately, there is no easy answer to it. We can work on filtering our timelines, as much as it can work anyway. We can step away, for a time or for as long is it takes, there's certainly no shame in that. Some of us will want to get involved and some will want to keep on posting as normal. Not because we don't care, or feel anything, but because it's the only way we know how to fight the darkness, of our own history and of the world outside. We will all have to find out what will work for us, because, this isn't ending any time soon, and allow others to do the same.

But to the rest of the Fediverse, if you come to read this. Please remember that there are those of us who are already hurt, who have always been hurting. Who have known nothing but being marginalised and isolated and a target for all the hate that is out there. So, don't be surprised if we ask you to CW your posts, or spell names and hashtags correctly, so that our filters can work. Don't begrudge us posting as normal, our pictures of cats and dogs, our silly humour and tales of normality. It doesn't mean that we don't care, in fact far from it.

#Autism
#ActuallyAutistic

v busy IRL rn, but recently I've been stimming to Reverie for another sphere by Taishi (たいし in hiragana?) on repeat, so I thought I would share it here.

In short: I discovered that ambient trance is a thing! ​​
I really like how Reverie for another sphere draws you in and takes you on a journey. If you close your eyes and just listen, you can almost have a different journey through the soundscape every time.

The dreamlike artwork by Heikala also really sets the tone! 🎵 🎶 🌟
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5M-CfgAG2n4
#Music #MusicRecs #Trance #Ambient #ActuallyAutistic #Stimming #StimmingPlaylist #Blog

They've brought a lock smith now to get into the apartment with the water damage. It's good because that gets us closer to having running water again, bad because now we got drilling sounds in the building and I guess more noises to come. 😬

#ActuallyAutistic